Therapist Jenna Nielsen defined emotional cheating as “Getting emotional support from another individual or sharing an intimate emotional connection that is more than a friendship. People who emotionally cheat sexy Scottish mujeres feel “guilty” or like they are “betraying” their current partner. ”
Olivia emotionally cheated on her partner, “It felt like cheating because I let them in in a way that felt unfaithful. I was indulging in their attention and although I didn’t cross the physical line, I knew my partner wouldn’t like it – I hid it from her and that’s what made it cheating.”
While friendships are healthy, frequent communication that feels too intimate or makes you want to hide it from your partner can indicate emotional cheating.
- Sharing your inner world (your thoughts, feelings, fears, etc.) with someone else while closing off to your partner
- Acting like you’re in a relationship with someone, just without the physical side
- Having strong emotions for someone else and letting them know (i.e., acting on it)
- Hiding a relationship from your partner because you feel guilty or are worried about what they might think
Virtual Cheating (Inappropriate Communication)
Cheating via social media or any other online platform or medium probably falls within the realm of emotional cheating. Still, it deserves its own category because it’s so prolific in our day and age.
The phrase “Sliding into someone’s DMs” has an undertone of doing something taboo, and many people, regardless of their relationship status, seem to take part.
Contacting someone online to flirt, exchange sexual pictures, or meet up in person can be considered cheating if you don’t tell your partner about it and hide it from them.
The question is, what is the intention behind someone’s online behavior? And would they like it if their partner acted in the same way?
- Sending flirtatious messages on social media
- Sexting
- Exchanging nudes
- Spending more time speaking to another person online than your partner
- Having a secret online dating profile
- Sexually and/ or emotionally charged conversations in chat rooms
Levels of Cheating
Not all forms of cheating are equal. Having a full-blown affair over several months is different from having a one-night stand on a drunken night out, though both can be very damaging to a relationship.
“Micro-cheating” describes behaviors that can make you feel jealous and insecure but can’t quite be classified as cheating (although if it exists in your relationship, it wouldn’t be surprising if it does lead to full-blown cheating eventually).
It’s little things like flirting with other people, entertaining someone else’s advances, contacting your ex, or fantasizing about another person a lot.
Their partner watching porn is considered cheating by some people but not by most. Going to strip clubs is considered cheating by many but not all. Some people might have been told “It’s normal” and therefore shouldn’t get upset about it even though it makes them feel uncomfortable.
If your partner’s behavior, no matter how insignificant it may seem, makes you feel insecure and jealous, it might be because they are being unfaithful and deceitful, and you should address that with them.
However, if you’re an insecure person, it might also be good to check in with yourself and see whether the suspicion and distrust are coming from within you and have little to do with your partner’s actual behavior.
Preventing Cheating
To prevent cheating, it’s important to understand why people cheat. There are many reasons, but it usually has to do with desire for excitement, dissatisfaction, selfish goal-pursuit, and/or game-playing.